Extra Points: Memorial Day Special

This week’s focus point…Memorial Day Special

Dad was a 30-year Navy veteran serving though 3 wars and being directly involved in the Atlantic theatre in

World War II. He never considered Memorial Day a tribute to him or any other veteran that survived wars and conflicts. He taught me there was another special day in November to honor all veterans. Instead, Memorial Day was to remember and honor those that gave the ultimate sacrifice – their life – in the call of duty. Today, this column will simply use the poignant and powerful words of President Abraham Lincoln when he addressed a crowd in Gettysburg on November 19, 1863. To all that died in service of this country and those that lost loved ones, we honor your sacrifice…

“The world will little note, nor long remember what we say here, but it can never forget what they did here. It is for us the living, rather, to be dedicated here to the unfinished work which they who fought here have thus far so nobly advanced. It is rather for us to be here dedicated to the great task remaining before us — that from these honored dead we take increased devotion to that cause fo
r which they gave the last full measure of devotion — that we here highly resolve that these dead shall not have died in vain — that this nation, under God, shall have a new birth of freedom — and that government of the people, by the people, for the people, shall not perish from the earth.”

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This week’s quote –

 The more liberty you give away, the more you will have.”

~ Robert Green Ingersoll

No Weedin Unleashed broadcasts for the next 2 weeks due to holiday and vacation. We will return on  June 8th at 12 pm Pacific. See you then!

Extra Points – Awe and Wonder

This week’s focus point…Awe and WonderDan Weedin Unleashed-40
I’m writing this article while sitting in a very small American Airlines Eagle fight from O’ Hare airport in Chicago to Sioux Falls, SD. I am heading to Sioux Falls to give a training for a new client.

I was surfing through a magazine as we took off. Taking off is something I seem to be doing a lot of lately, so I took the experience pretty lightly. Then I looked up from the magazine…

It was a beautiful night over one of the iconic cities in America. Suddenly, I was overcome with awe and wonder of what was actually happening. I was in a “transport” that was shuttling me through air at a high rate of speed waiting to “slip the surly bonds of earth…”

This initially mundane experience became surreal when I realized how unimaginable this would be to people living 250 years ago. They couldn’t comprehend the thought of traveling through air and looking down on a city and then at the TOPS of clouds while feeling totally at ease (other than sitting in a very uncomfortable seat). Holy Flux Capacitor!

How often do you “look up” from your “mundane” and seek out something to be in awe and wonder of? I don’t do it enough and I bet many of you are in the same boat. Everything we do offers opportunity to learn, to grow, and to marvel at. We just have to be paying attention.

Be in the moment this week. Take a few extra seconds and marvel at what we have around us and what we can do. Like I’ve heard Alan Weiss say a million times, “You can always make another dollar but you can’t make another minute.”

Enjoy more minutes this week!
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This week’s quote –

Aim above morality. Be not simply good, be good for something.”

~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Extra Points: The ROI of YOU

This week’s focus point…R.O.I. of Y.O.U.Dan Weedin Unleashed-40
My colleague Betsy Jordyn and I recently held a live discussion and debate on branding for consultants and entrepreneurs. It was the topic of my Extra Points last week. However this week, I’d like to take a closer look at our actual concept which is how strong branding produces remarkable ROI (return on investment) in you. But not in the way you might think…

Brand is what people think of you when you’re not in the room. Apple, Google, and Starbucks have strong and valuable brands in the corporate world. Betsy and I posit that small businesses and professional service providers can accomplish the same brand ROI for themselves. One of the problems we see in our work is that too many people might believe in their business brand, yet don’t believe in their own personal one. They haven’t made the sale to themselves yet.

Here are a few red flags – you fear being “found out;” you fear what others might think of you and your ideas; you fear being rejected for those ideas or opinions; you don’t take bold risks; you avoid tough conversations around your decisions; and/or you procrastinate making any decisions at all when they relate to advancing your “personal” brand. What do people think of you when you’re not in the room? I bet often more than you might. In order to maximize your personal “brand” and truly “unleash” your potential, then you might want to start getting the biggest ROI on YOU as soon as possible.

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This week’s quote –

Always do what you are afraid to do.”

~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Insider View on Betsy & Dan 1 – The R-O-I of Y-O-U

Here is a 9-minute cut from an hour long event. It’s the first episode of 3 by Betsy Jordyn and me on branding strategy for consultants, business coaches, entrepreneurs, and small business owners.

You can get this entire episode, plus the next 2 for free. All you have to do is log on to the Betsy & Dan page on this blog and register. Easy peazy…

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Horrible Bosses

58842030-Dan+Weedin+%22Unleashed%22-30I was skimming through Facebook one recent Friday a few weeks ago and came across a very brief but telling comment by a person I know as an entrepreneur. It read, “Weekend? I’m self-employed. There’s no such thing.”

If you’re self-employed, an entrepreneur or a business owner and you believe this to be true, then I have four words for you…

You’re a horrible boss! You’re doing something wrong. And, you need to change it if you ever want to maximize your talents, skills and value to others.

You started a business or a practice because you wanted to control your own direction and outcomes in life. Why is it that you would treat yourself worse than anyone else that you might employ?

I don’t know what purpose the author of the statement on Facebook had for making it. Suffice it to say, that I’ve heard this proclamation many times and admit at times in the past have made it myself. What I’ve learned and implemented in my life has come from work with my own mentor to the betterment of my business and personal life. Allow me to share with you my thoughts on identifying and exterminating this dangerous myth.

How do you know you’re afflicted? Do any of these look familiar:

• You resign yourself to the fate of working late into the night or on weekends to stay “caught up.”

• Through your actions, you demonstrate that working “hard” is better than working “smart.”

• You hold up working long hours as some badge of honor. In fact, you love this badge so much that you post it on your social media that you’re working late hours and weekends!

• You don’t consider taking time off during the week just for yourself because of how it might look to others.

• You start losing the passion you once had for your craft because it now has become a “job,” rather than a vocation.

If any of these resemble or sound like you, you have Horrible Boss Syndrome. There are more telltale signs to this malady, but I don’t have enough room in this column to share them. Let’s use the rest of the space I have to offer you solutions. Here are my Top 7 Ways to purge Horrible Boss Syndrome:

1. Consider yourself a peer. That’s right; consider yourself a peer of yourself! Too often, Horrible Bosses think they are unskilled labor and perform tasks and activities below their talent level. This starts with a mindset of abundance, rather than one of scarcity.

2. Delegate. Once you’ve convinced yourself you’re a peer, now you have to unload those tasks and activities. That means delegate. Delegate work that is beneath your skill level, above your skill level (e.g. bookkeeping and web design), or that you just don’t like doing.

3. Uncover discretionary time. We all have time in our day to unburden our mind. Get away from your desk and take a walk, read a magazine, run to the café for a coffee, or hit the gym for a quick workout. If you don’t allow your mind to breathe, especially during the day, you will burn out. On days I’m in my office, I force myself to change my activity about every 90 minutes to do just this.

4. Just say NO. Politely decline requests from others to do things or join committees that you don’t have a passion for or simply don’t want to allocate your valuable time to. Stop feeling guilty or obligated. If it doesn’t make sense for you at this time in your life, just say no.

5. Say goodbye. If you’re currently involved in something that is mentioned above, be strong enough to leave. Being active in a role that requires your time and labor intensity and that has become a burden only makes your life more taxing. My guess is all of you have at least one of these. How much time can you free up?

6. Reward yourself. You undoubtedly reward your employees and your clients for work well done or for thanks. How about you? When was the last time you rewarded yourself for doing even small things?  Create a list of small rewards to pat yourself on the back when you do well. Horrible Bosses are demeaning in their language (check your own internal words) and Great Bosses offer rewards and kudos.

7. No Unsolicited Advice. Solicit advice from those people you trust and want advice from. Don’t allow others to give you their unsolicited opinions. It’s usually more for their benefit than yours. Unsolicited advice tends to lower your confidence, increase analysis paralysis, and increase your workload. Seek out those that have your best interest at heart and have the knowledge to help you improve, and discard all unwanted counseling.

Here’s a bonus thought for you to add to this list. Have fun. You put yourself in this position of being self-employed because you thought it would be fun. Whatever you’re doing should be a passion. It should provide you with joy and rewards. It should be FUN!

Take a few minutes after reading this to do an honest self-assessment. Are you exhibiting signs of Horrible Boss Syndrome? If you are, then resign from that wretched boss and find a new one that will encourage and reward you. The good news is that it’s the same person just with a different mindset, attitude, and charm.

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Extra Points – Do Your Best

This week’s focus point…Doing Your BestDan Weedin Unleashed-40
Last week, my good friend and colleague Betsy Jordyn and I debuted our brand new interactive video program for consultants and entrepreneurs called, Betsy & Dan: Sound Off! The problem was, when it came to “game time,” the sound was literally off!

Without going into any of the technology troubles I created, suffice it to say that at one point nobody could see or hear Betsy or me, and then they could see and here me, but not her. Our program started about 15 minutes late, the 30 participants were happy, and Betsy and I were no worse for wear.

We’re not performing brain surgery (with pardon to any brain surgeons reading this memo). The work most of us do doesn’t involve life or death. Stuff happens. When I realized the only way to extricate ourselves from this technology mess was to start over, I simply informed everyone of what I was doing and we moved on. The lesson here is that when you simply do the best you can, be happy and accept it. Sometimes we win and sometimes the dragon does. That’s life.

Too many people get anxious, stressed out, and angry when things don’t go well. They blame others; they blame themselves; and often their self-infliction is detrimental to their health and their career. If you can accept that doing the very best you can with the information you have is good enough, then you’re going to be healthier and happier for it. There’s no need for perfectionism because it can’t be attained and you will make yourself miserable trying. Instead, strive to be the best you can be every day and accept both the failures and successes that come with it. That’s the quickest way to becoming “unleashed.” Just ask Captain Jack…

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This week’s quote –

Always do what you are afraid to do.”

~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

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