Extra Points: Finding Balance

This Week’s Focus Point: Finding BalanceCapt Jack and Dan

The week following Thanksgiving here in the United States has become a transition point for people, both professionally and personally. It starts a shift from the “regular year” into a full blown holiday season. Whether you celebrate Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, or nothing at all, you can’t ignore the flurry of activity, events, and sometimes crushing “noise.”

This transition from “regular” into the holiday/end of year/resolution-ready period that concludes sometime soon after January 1 contains the peril of overwhelming us. We rush around buying gifts, planning parties, sending cards, compiling year-end reports, trying to spend budgets before it’s too late while determining next year’s budget…. You get what I’m saying.

This week’s missive is a suggestion for you for simplicity. When you find yourself rushing or frenzied; anxious or scared; flustered or frantic…or just overwhelmed… then just stop. Stop and find a quiet spot physically and mentally. Perform a quick triage – assess your situation, determine its level of urgency, take a deep breath, and calmly determine what to do next – after you’ve stopped and recharged.

I guarantee you’ll encounter opportunities to practice this. Those that don’t risk making mistakes or missing things that only add to the stress. Those that can discipline themselves to slow down and triage will find this final month of the year more relaxing, rewarding, and enjoyable. Which do you prefer?

Quote of the Week:
“Whatever you are, be a good one.”
~ Abraham Lincoln
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Extra Points: Thanksgiving Special

I’m thankful for….Capt Jack and Dan

This beginning of a sentence will become ubiquitous over the next week. It will be orally proclaimed at dinner tables and scrawled across Facebook posts in cyberspace.That’s all fine, but I challenge each of you to really examine how you define the word “thankful.” For me, it’s about being grateful for those very important things in life that you often have little to no control over. The 3 categories I highlight this week are relationships, health, and where you live.

I’m thankful for my lovely, talented, and highly patient wife, Barb. When it comes to this most important relationships, I hit the jackpot. Our beautiful daughters Mindy and Kelli have grown into wonderful people and I’m fortunate that I also call them my “friends.” My extended family (which is out of my control) is simply awesome. I’m thankful for each of them. I’m fortunate for the relationships I have with my friends, including Rotary, clients, colleagues, and those people from my youth that remain friends even through years of not seeing each other. I’m very blessed.

I’m thankful for my good health. While I can control a lot that goes into the definition of health, there is much I can’t. I’ve seen friends and family stricken with health issues they had no control of, and I’ve been lucky to avoid those calamities.

Finally, I had no control of where I was born and where I would grow up. Being born in the United States afforded me opportunities (like starting my own consulting practice) without fear of oppression. It allowed me the chance for a great education, food on my plate, a roof over my head, and possessions that for most of the world are unattainable and unbelievable. So many on this planet have no food, no clean water, no shelter, and deal with political strife and war. Again, I count my blessing because there but for the grace of God go I.

If you’re reading this message (and I sincerely thank you for that) then my guess is you’ve got much to be thankful for, too. Take some thoughtful time this week to not only define what “thankful” is to you, but to whom you owe that thanks to…and then tell them.

On behalf of my family, we wish you a warm and wonderful Thanksgiving full of daily,  friends, and food (and maybe a little or a lot of football!).

Happy Thanksgiving.

Quote of the Week:
“A leader is a dealer in hope.”
~ Napoleon Bonaparte

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Extra Points: Pitching Perfect is Perilous

Dan Weedin Unleashed-40This Week’s Focus Point: Pitching Perfect is Perilous
Thoughts and prayers with Paris after the tragic events on Friday. Stay strong and resilient…we are with you.
On Saturday, I had a bunch of buddies over to the house to watch the Ronda Rousey vs. Holly Holm UFC fight. I admit it…I’m a bit of a front-runner in sports I don’t have rooting interest in, so I’m a Ronda Rousey fan. That’s why I was a fan of Muhammad Ali back in the 1970s. Rousey had been dominant in the sport and unbeaten. At one point prior to this fight, she declared her desire to retire one day unbeaten…perfect. On Saturday night, she was anything but perfect. Holm boxed perfectly and took advantage of Rousey’s aggressiveness and in my opinion, her desperation. Holm shocked the UFC world by knocking out Rousey in the 2nd Round to claim the title.
There is a lot of pressure to being “perfect.” Ask Kentucky basketball coach John Calipari whose undefeated team was knocked off in the title game a few years ago. He said he actually wished they had lost a game in the regular season to eliminate the pressure.
I’ve met and coached many perfectionists in my life and career. There is a very real danger to perfectionism. It’s not noble or a great work ethic; rather it’s the fastest way to failure. Too much internal pressure to be “perfect” in your business dealings (e.g. big sales presentation) or in your personal life (e.g. being the perfect parent or spouse) will lead you to “press” or like Rousey, into desperation mode.

Bottom line – You don’t have to be perfect to be successful, so extricate that from your mindset. Focus on doing the best you can with the knowledge and ability you have. Always look to improve your skills and knowledge, and simply be satisfied with the quest for doing your best that day and that moment. That will ultimately lead you to greater success that you might have imagined.

Quote of the Week:
“Failure will never overtake me if my determination to succeed is strong enough.”
~ Og Mandino (American author)

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Happy Veterans Day

Happy Veterans Day to all those that have served our country and protected the rest of us. Dad_DonWeedin

Special recognition from me for my dad, Don Weedin (pictured) and his brother, Max Weedin.

I also want to recognize my other living family members – Roger DeWald​, David DeWald​  Edwina DeWald​  Jacob DeWald​

Finally, as a proud member of the Washington Society Sons of the American Revolution​ I want to salute my patriot grandfathers that were the country’s FIRST veterans in the Revolutionary War – James McClelland (PA), Micajah Moorman (VA) and Jonathan Bowne (NJ).

We owe you our gratitude and support.

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NEW EVENT: Unleashed Resilience: The Power of Perseverance & Resilience in Your Life

How would you like to gain the gift of improved resilience in your career and life?Dan Weedin Unleashed-19

Invest in yourself by registering for my brand new virtual experience called “Unleashed Resilience: The Power of Perseverance and Resilience in Your Life.”

This is a 60-minute virtual teleconference that will be unique in its content, dynamic in the experience, and valuable in the results you will gain from it. You can read more and register on my website. This is a program I created for everyone because resilience is a topic for all of us…

“Seats” for the event are limited. Register today for only $95. It will be the best investment you make this year.


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Extra Points: Tip of the Ball

Dan Weedin Unleashed-40This Week’s Focus Point: Tip of the Ball

I recently watched a documentary on Pro Football Hall of Fame wide receiver, Steve Largent. Largent is one of my all-time favorites and I enjoyed learning more about him. One thing that caught my attention was how he used a lesson from skeet shooting to become a better pass catcher. He recalled being taught to aim at the tip of the skeet when firing because you needed the bullet to go where the skeet was going, not where it was. Largent took that concept to the football field. Instead of keeping his eyes on the ball, he focused on the tip of the ball. In other words, where the ball was going rather than where it was.

Where are you going in 2016?

You can use this same concept in your own business and life. Your focus today – your daily activities, behavior, and mindset – should be on what you want to do one year from now. What kind of clients do you want to have? What new skills do you want to gain? How will your employees and company culture be better?

Bottom line – if your focus is on the ball (what you’re doing today) then you will miss the target a year from now. Life is too volatile. You must be intentional in your goals by doing the things today to achieve what you desire in 12 months. Be bold, be nimble, and be focused on the tip of the ball.

Quote of the Week:
“That which is not good for the bee-hive cannot be good for the bees.”
~ Marcus Aurelius (famed Roman soldier)

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Extra Points: Control

This Week’s Focus Point: ControlDan Weedin Unleashed-40
Last week, I was the guest speaker for a Rotary Club that meets at golf course. During lunch, as I was watching a group approach the green, I noticed something unusual. One of the golfers was following his golf bag! It was the first time I had seen one of the remote control hand carts in action. This was actually putting the cart ahead of the…golfer. I have to admit I was fascinated watching the golf bag lead it’s owner to the green-side sand trap. Apparently, it doesn’t help your swing!

This cutting edge gadget once implemented is a pretty cool accessory…as long as the person with the remote control is leading it correctly. Likewise, employees are excellent assets for a company…if they are led correctly. Your professional career is a tremendous source of reward and revenue…if you know how to lead yourself. And your life – the only one you get – can be a source of enjoyment, exhilaration, and delight. That will happen when the person leading it – you – commit to mastering the remote control of which you have full “control” over. Not doing it well puts you in a hazard; but effectively maneuvering your own life’s course will result in putting for birdies more often than not.

Quote of the Week:
“Ideas pull the trigger, but instinct load the gun.”
~ Don Marquis (American Poet)

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