You’re not good enough.
Has anyone ever said these words to you? Are you included on that list?
As humans, we have rampant thoughts go through our heads as we take in and process information from the outside. All of us will fall victim to self-doubt, whether it’s manifested from inside or outside our own heads. Social media threads are rampant with opinions, especially in politics and sports. I read plenty of mean-spirited and mostly uneducated judgements of fired and hired NFL coaches that weren’t “good enough.” In high level executive board rooms, leaders of Fortune 500 companies often succumb to the imposter syndrome where they think it’s a matter of time before they are “found out” to be not good enough. Even small and medium-sized business owners must fight negative thinking so as not to allow themselves – especially in times of crisis and challenge – to think they aren’t good enough to overcome adversity.
Last weekend, a young man on the Washington State University football team committed suicide. He was only 21 years old. Everything you read about him painted the picture of a happy, gregarious, and good teammate and friend. None of us know what thoughts and demons he may have had in his head, but at some level he believed he wasn’t good enough as a person, when it was obvious to everyone else that he was. Not all self-doubt will lead to this end, but it will ultimately lead one to not fulfilling their human potential and living a life that they desire.
Former big league pitcher and Seattle Mariner Jamie Moyer was once asked about his mindset on the mound when things were going poorly. Moyer – winner of 269 games – explained that he might have the bases loaded with one out and one run already in, and the opponent’s best hitter at the plate. He would tell himself, “all I need to do is get a hard ground ball right to the shortstop and the double play gets us out of the inning.” That’s how to unleash your self-belief!
Last week, I asked if you could handle the truth, remember? Let me leave you with this today. The truth is you are good enough. That first sale is to yourself and if you have that belief, then you, your business and career, and your life will follow suit.
Quote of the Week:
“Nobody is defeated until until he starts blaming somebody else. My advice to you is don’t fix the blame. Fix the problem.”
~ John Wooden
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