Extra Points: Find The Helpers

Dan Weedin Unleashed-40As I attended the graduation ceremony at my local high school, I was impressed specifically by one of the graduate speakers. She mentioned a quote by that great American philosopher, Mr. Rogers. She said that Mr. Rogers was influential in her mother’s life (which reminded me of the generation I’m in) and he had once said that in this world, there are “helpers” when people are in trouble. Her mother explained, “whenever you see a crisis on television, look for the helpers. You will see them.”

That simple statement is so very true. Think of even recent calamities like the Boston Marathon bombing, the devastation of natural disasters, and countless school shootings. You always will find the helpers.

You’d like to think that we are all “helpers,” but it’s not the case. We are all wired differently and bring value, however others are intrinsically wired to be helpers.

This week, we will be performing a crisis simulation exercise for a client. These exercises often reveal those that are leaders, those that are talkers, those that are followers, and importantly, those that are helpers. Every organization – for profit and non-profit – need to identify helpers in their organizations. Every neighborhood and community must identify the helpers. And every family should know the helpers. It’s paramount for resilience and survival when calamity hits.

We all play a role in the affiliations we have. Those of you that have a leadership role in business or in your personal life need to take heed of the wise words of Mr. Rogers. Go find the helpers.

Quote of the Week:

”My father gave me the greatest gift anyone can give another person; he believed in me..”

~ Jim Valvano

Happy Fathers Day to all the fathers out there!

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The key to personal and professional improvement is accountability. My mentoring and coaching program has availability. Contact me at dan@danweedin.com or (360) 271-1592 to apply.

Extra Points: Empathy

Dan Weedin Unleashed-40This past week was marked by the deaths by suicide of two prominent celebrities, Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain. I knew of Kate Spade because I have a wife and daughters who all carry purses (and I think at least one of them is her brand); however I really followed Anthony Bourdain’s work as a foodie and amateur cook always looking to learn. I found his work on television to not only be educational, but edgy, provocative, and entertaining. Both deaths from all appearances seem shocking to even those that knew them well.

I’m no expert on depression, mental illness, or what would compel someone to commit suicide. What I do know is that money, fame, and success don’t deter the action; in fact they might actually contribute to it. I’ve seen countless pleas from people on social media trying to raise awareness of depression and as noble as that is, I’m not sure it leads to people with depression suddenly coming forward, or to make it easier for those that don’t to observe it. What I do find poignant is the testimony of those who are brave enough to share their stories of depression and mental illness to help raise the depth of the discussion.

Life is volatile and we humans are complicated. Emotions and our sheer humanity are shared equally among us regardless of station in life or money in the bank. We all strive for peace in our hearts, acceptance from friends and family, reward in our work, and strong, loving relationships. What I fear is happening in our world is a decrease in empathy; a growing unwillingness to genuinely understand someone else. Social media has become a repository of judgments and opinions meant to harm others emotionally.

We all can become better when it comes to empathy and concern for others. While there’s no proof that a change in this will reduce tragic suicides or alleviate mental illness, it can’t hurt. And, if we do make even slight changes, think about how this will positively affect us individually and improve the relationships we have.

Quote of the Week:

”Barbecue may not be the road to world peace, but it’s a start.”

~ Anthony Bourdain

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The key to personal and professional improvement is accountability. My mentoring and coaching program has availability. Contact me at dan@danweedin.com or (360) 271-1592 to apply.

Extra Points: Trimming the Fat

Dan Weedin Unleashed-40As you’re reading this, I’m in Carpinteria, CA at LinkedIn headquarters filming my LinkedIn Learning course scheduled to be released later this year. Part of the preparation for the course is writing the scripts to be used for the videos. Last week, I met with the producers virtually to read a few of them. The consensus?  While they were good, they were too long. I needed to reduce the number of words for each from about 650 to 500. That’s a 25% reduction.

The process of cutting that much out while keeping the value in is a challenge. It requires a very precise analysis of what is really important in the text. The goal of being pithy is searching to use fewer words to say the same thing even better. The legendary comedian Jerry Seinfeld said in an interview, “I will spend an hour taking an eight word sentence and editing it down to five.” Trimming the fat leads to better communication.

Trimming the fat in your communications isn’t relegated to scripts and speeches. Consider your emails; Facebook posts; text messages; and business meetings. How much time is spent because the communications were bloated with excess, fatty words? Not only does it waste your valuable time, its more often less clear, which leads to miscommunications, misunderstandings, and unwanted drama.

If you want less drama, learn from a comedian. If Jerry Seinfeld values less words, then we should, too. I was forced to take on this task and in the end, my scripts and the course will be better for it.

This week try trimming the fat in your communications and correspondence. You’ll find the results leaner and meaner!

Quote of the Week:

”To err is human; to err repeatedly is research.”

~ Unknown. Sent in from a reader that saw it on Twitter and shared!

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The key to personal and professional improvement is accountability. My mentoring and coaching program has availability. Contact me at dan@danweedin.com or (360) 271-1592 to apply.

Seattle Shrimp Tank: John Martinka

Check out the latest episode of the Shrimp Tank with our guest, John Martinka!

Learn about how to buy and sell a business with this national thought leader on the subject…

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