Retirement is an ancient and irrelevant artifact. To deliberately stop contributing, creating, and providing value to others is unthinkable (and a slippery slope to irrelevancy and decline).
In the grand scheme of things, life is blazingly short. We condemn suicide, yet we seem to think nothing about throwing life away in part and piecemeal, a little at a time, through inaction and self-doubt. Liberate yourself each morning, like my dogs, charge into the yard and find out what’s new and potentially rewarding for you!
~ Alan Weiss
Last Saturday, I had the tremendous honor of sharing in the birthday celebration for my business mentor, Alan Weiss.I love his recent quote on “retirement” and want to share with you. I tell people all the time that I have no plans to retire. Did George Burns or Bob Hope ever “retire” and stop working?
Find your passion, do what you love, and then have great patience and perspective. The bad things that happen are rarely calamitous. They are most often just minor speed bumps. Speed on.
Final thought. I work with clients all the time that have built (or are building) a business to then fund their “retirement.” I absolutely endorse that and am helping them accomplish it. The difference is, once they’ve funded the rest of their lives, there is no reason to “retire;” just to discover that next adventure to contribute, create and provide value.
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Anyone that knows me well knows I’m a burger fanatic. I ordered a bacon cheddar burger (sans bun) on a lettuce wrap with fries. My colleague Hugh, sitting next to me, ordered a lamb burger (that I’d also been eyeing but opted for the former). When the plates came out, a mistake had been made. Not only did Hugh get his order of lamb burger, but they thought I also ordered one, too. It came without bun exactly as ordered, except the wrong burger. As they were about to whisk it away, I stopped them. I told them I wasn’t picky, almost had ordered the lamb burger, and was happy to take it. The “mistake” turned out great for me. The burger was simply delicious. I couldn’t have asked for a better experience. The wrong gift concealed in the correct wrapping turned out to be the best surprise.
Great gifts will come when and how you least expect them. They may look like what you want or expected from the outside, and may be your second, third (or last) choice, but by being amenable to the change and uncertainty may lead to your improved condition. In other words, face value can oftentimes be a mirage; what’s really to your benefit is rolling the dice on the unknown with the certainty that you will have learned, grown, or become happier becasue of it.
I’m glad I didn’t let that burger get sent back to the kitchen because it’s not what I first wanted. Don’t let yours pass you by either.
Quote of the Week:
“If opportunity doesn’t knock, build a door.”
~ Milton Berle
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I’m headed out today for the annual Mentor Summit hosted by Alan Weiss for all the consultants around the globe in his mentor program. It’s always a fun event…last year in Washington D.C. and this year at Las Vegas.
(I’m traveling to Vegas on the first day of Lent…I guess discipline is the first test for this year!)
I consistently learn a lot from Alan, and one of his most recent newsletters contained a brief article that resonated with me. I’ve printed it out and glance or read it every morning for perspective. I thought on this day that I travel to see him and many of my colleagues, I’d share it with you. I hope it has the same effect.
My friends, I have a question: What’s the alternative?
We are living on a chunk of space rock traveling at 80,000 miles per hour around an exploding star. We influence and control none of that, and scientific and religious argument notwithstanding, we don’t actually understand very much of it.
Hence, it’s rewarding to be optimistic each day, canine-like in our eagerness to exploit the new morning, because it’s the only sane way to live. If you oppose suicide, then why throw your life away piecemeal by worrying about every conceivable issue and assuming and fearing the worst? Every day those of us who drive engage in a huge display of positive faith by driving on roads at 60 miles per hour or more with those around us – distracted, on phones, angry, having consumed alcohol or drugs, daydreaming, depressed, stressed – doing the same within mere feet of our cars.
Ergo, we all exhibit at least a cautious optimism. We believe we can avoid accidents and are willing to take the small risk of someone acting recklessly around us. Our portmanteau is actually filled with reasonable assumptions and safe predictions. One of my favorite apothegms is: “This, too, shall pass.”
I believe in giving people the benefit of the doubt until and unless they prove unworthy of it. I’d like the same favor extended to me. I believe in temporary setbacks and not fatal mistakes. I’m an opportunist by nature, and if something unanticipated is in my path, I don’t avoid it, I think about what I can do with it. (A dog will try to eat it and, failing that, play with it and, failing that, urinate on it. My hierarchy is somewhat different.)
Therefore, what choice do you really have? Are you going to face the morning as another long, slow, crawl through enemy territory? Or are you going to sprint into what light we have?
If the latter, that figure out there ahead of you would be me.
~ Alan Weiss (from his newsletter, Balancing Act ®)
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Let that sink in for a second.
Struggle and adversity are part of life; part of business. I counsel my clients that risk management is a myth because you can’t “manage” risk, you can only plan to be resilient. Crises will happen, it’s what you do with it that is important.
The social media platforms are filled with people that have chosen to “suffer.” They will post ambiguous statements meant to draw some sort of reaction from friends wondering what it means. You’ve undoubtedly worked with people that boorishly share their misfortune (always someone else’s fault). And you may have people in your life that seemingly thrive in self-pity and cynicism. These are your “volunteer sufferers.”
If you go into life knowing that every day offers an opportunity for both pain and contentment, then you’ve got a chance to enjoy a healthy existence. Bad things happen, yet they are rarely “personal,” many times are random and out of your control, and always offer opportunities for personal and professional growth. Encouraging and “sharing” suffering only makes one (and those around them) miserable. The alternative – acceptance, resilience, and positivity – will lead to many more “open gates” that you can bound unleashed through.
“Without struggle, there can be no progress.”
~ Frederick Douglass
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“I will wait until I have saved more money…”
I will wait for the perfect time…”
Alan Weiss has often said that you can always make another dollar, but you can’t make another minute. This is an abundance mentality. The problem with putting off experiences is that if you wait for the “better time,” it’s likely that you never embark on the experience (travel, project, career, etc.).
Don’t put off opportunities to experience life where you are today. Finding the money; finding the time; committing to putting you and your family first; and creating a mindset of being in the moment and enjoying your life will reap huge dividends in your attitude and spirit. I’m not suggesting recklessness. I am suggesting open-mindedness, boldness, confidence, and action. Today is fleeting. What will you do today to take advantage of the minutes? What will you plan for to take advantage of tomorrow and the days, weeks, months, and years after?
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Earlier this week, you may have read the tale of the great escape as told by the escapee, Captain Jack. The dude showed he’s still got game when it comes to getting unleashed – or in this case running with the leash still secured to him. He explained the extra “baggage” kept him from being able to fully maximize his agility and nimbleness, so he was quickly corralled by yours truly.
All that being said, one can learn a few post-event from his response.
Although being scolded, Captain Jack showed no remorse. He trotted home accepting the fact that his adventure was short-lived; he drank up the entire bowl of water; went to the window to get a full stretch, and then settled in for a much deserved nap.
Very often, when we humans fail at some attempt at a new opportunity – maybe it was a sales call, an interview, a misunderstanding, or just a good attempt that went awry – we allow that failure to become “leashed” to us for hours, days, months, or even years.
Dogs have it figured out better. They chalk up failure to happenstance or serendipity and just move on. They are seeking out that next smell; or that next opportunity. Wasting time on failures means you just might miss that next chance for success.
Take it from dogs – Be bold and courageous and do your best. If it works, great. If you fail, then you’ve learned something. If you walk away from failure without having learned something and improving yourself, then the failure wins. If you walk away from failure and let it stick around and rent space in your brain, then it wins again. The only way you win is to dump the leash and be free to check out new smells and new opportunities to run.
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