Extra Points: The Cost of Waiting

Dan Weedin Unleashed-40“So often times it happens that we live our lives in chains

And we never even know we have the key…”

The basic tenet of having an “unleashed” career and life is that you free yourself from your own invisible fence. The good news is that you have the key; the bad news is that The Eagles are right, you might not even know it.

There are many entrepreneurs and business leaders that choose to wait to invest in themselves. Various excuses exist as to why ranging from, “It costs too much,” to “I’m just too busy,” to “I’m going to absolutely do it next year,” to “My boss isn’t willing to pay for it.” All these excuses (and more) are rooted in the erroneous reasoning that there is little no cost in waiting. There is a huge cost…

The very best investment one can make is in themselves. And if that’s the very best investment, then one should get the very best help and never compromise on that. You see it all the time with world-class athletes, musicians, and other such notable professionals that never would consider scrimping or saving on themselves. The cost to waiting is great because you’ll never get that time back and it was time that you would have otherwise been realizing a return in that investment.

As you head into the final push of one year and ready yourself to embark on another, consider how much you invest in your own self development. Are you investing more on you than you are on your employees? Are you financing your own investment to have some real skin in the game? Will you take what you’ve learned and put it into action? Are you ready to boldly unleash yourself and see what the future really holds for you, your career, and your business?

Remember, you control yourself and your destiny. Why not go into that future fully prepared to succeed beyond your wildest dreams?

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Note: Lyrics from The Eagles 1974 song, “Already Gone” written by Jack Tempchin and Robb Strandlund

Quote of the Week:

“Every artist was first an amateur.”

~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Extra Points: Put Me in Coach

This Week’s Focus Point: Put Me in CoachDan Weedin Unleashed-40

Why is it that the most successful athletes and entertainers in the world have a coach?

Common thinking might assume that people who have reached the pinnacle of their success can “figure it out” for the rest of their career based on experience, knowledge, and already highly-developed skills. The truth is that the only way you get to the top (and then keep climbing to a “new” peak) is to be guided, challenged, and held accountable by someone other than your family and friends.

Adele has a singing coach. Jane Fonda just hired an acting coach at 78 years old. Russell Wilson has at least 5 direct coaches. Kobe Bryant used to hire a new coach every summer. For athletes and entertainers, it seems obvious. Why not for every small business owner and entrepreneur?

My instinct tells me the word “coach” is one of the factors. Many business people think “coach” infers that one needs help; that they are somehow not capable of working it out by themselves. Here’s the problem. Without a sounding board; without access to someone else’s smarts; without guidance and accountability; and without new perspective, one can get caught breathing their own exhaust for so long that they metaphorically expire.

The other key factor is coaches are considered a cost or expense, rather than an investment. This is simply short-sighted. If Serena Williams thought that way, she would have never become arguably the greatest female tennis player of all-time. If you think that way, you’ll simply never reach your potential. And the saddest part – you’ll never know what it was.

Everyone needs a coach, no matter what you call him or her. The top 10% of business professionals on the planet have one. Are you one of those? If not, it’s time to get in the game for the sake of your business and best future self.

Quote of the Week:

“It is better to know some of the questions than all of the answers.”

~ James Thurber

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A New Rave Review

I’m always grateful to my clients that take the time to write a testimonial on my behalf. Just this week, I received a new one that was especially nice…

My work with Dan Weedin was targeted to help provide guidance and insight, while navigating through issues inherent with managing a small company. Dan became engaged very quickly, he listened, asked questions, analyzed, and then offered possible solutions and suggestions.  

Dan leaves no doubt about his sincerity in helping me resolve issues, and to get me back on the fast track to success. I have to admit, I was somewhat skeptical about how someone I had never met could help me and my team, especially considering he had little or no knowledge regarding the industry I was working in. Well, my only regret now is, I wish I would have started sooner with Dan. I have relied on Dan’s unique insight, experience and wisdom many times, and I am grateful for the guidance he has provided me. With Dan’s tutelage, I have gone from “frustrated” to “triumphal.”

Patrick G. Reed, Sr. Project Manager – CW Solutions (New Jersey)

Any of you feeling “frustrated?” Would you like to moved to “triumphal” in your career? Ready to maximize your talents?

Many thanks to Pat for his kind words. Business and executive coaching can work wonders for your professionally and personally. Just like elite athletes need coaches to help them reach their highest abilities, so do elite business people need coaching to accomplish the same thing.

If you’d like to learn more about how I can help you achieve more, contact me at (360) 271-1592 or dan@danweedin.com.

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Rave Reviews Redux

Many thanks to a happy coaching client…

In working with Dan Weedin, he gets my highest recommendation as an executive coach and mentor. Dan’s ability to recognize, understand, and explain complex business relationships has improved my thinking, and most importantly, my actions. Along the way there have been surprising (and sometimes painful) personal realizations, but Dan’s mentoring continues to make me a better person every day, professionally and personally. I came away from every coaching session with a clearer understanding of how people might respond to my actions and how I could improve my skills.

Dan did not hesitate to tactfully, but directly point out areas that needed to be considered a different way, and proved to be right with his observations, opinions, and suggestions. I would recommend Dan as a professional coach and mentor.

~ Bridget Lauer (New Jersey)

Thanks, Bridget!

Are you interested in dramatically improving your individual performance starting right now? Would you like to make 2016 your best year ever both personally and professionally? Contact me at 360-271-1592 or dan@danweedin.com to find out how I help my clients do just that…

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This book has arrived at a great time for you, because no matter what stage of growth you currently occupy, Dan will help you to grow further and faster. He creates positive change with positive psychology, but also creates sustainable results through the mastery of the skills and behaviors required for ongoing success. Make no mistake, this isn’t a “self-help” book. You need Dan’s help, as so many others have. Alan Weiss, author of Million Dollar Consulting

Immersing Your Way to a Successful Career and Life

I visited my mother yesterday at the memory care facility she lives in. I try to visit her every day for at least 30-45 minutes. I’ve learned the times that work best for her as far as her mood. The later in the afternoon it gets, the worse it gets due to her “sun downers.” The prime time is between 1:00 and 3:30, so that is my new goal.IMG_2605

On this particular visit, I was Jaime. Jaime was her brother. He was only one year younger in age and a doctor. He was someone she trusted implicitly and was very close to. With dementia, important people sometimes get mixed up when the synapses decide to go wonky. I used to try to correct all the time..now I just go with it and enjoy the time.

Since I was Jaime, the conversation we had for 40 minutes was solely in Espanol. Although I tried to work out of it, we always returned to it quickly. When you’re dealing with a dementia patient, they are in control of the conversation, so I submitted to that fate. My Espanol is decent, yet it is tested mightily in conversation. I’ve learned to be able to say the same words and sentences enough times that I sound better than I am in a prolonged conversation. That being said, a funny thing happens when you’re “immersed” in a conversation in a different language. You must conform and get better. Fast.

My wife and I have hosted 8 Rotary Exchange students over the years. Each one has told us that the quickest way they learn English is to totally immerse themselves in it. That means conversations, television shows, and movies. The more they force themselves into the immersion, the more initial “pain” they have, yet the more short-lived that “pain” really is. They learn to become proficient and grow in confidence through their success. Likewise for me, even my brief conversation in Spanish with Mom forced me into an immersion. By the end, I was feeling more confident and certainly being more successful, even if I was still making a few mistakes.

Business success starts with its own “immersion.” In order to rapidly improve and enhance your business and yourself, you must force yourself to grow, even if its initially painful. Any time you go through quick change, you may suffer the same growing pains as a teenage boy over the summer of his 15th year. The reason many people avoid being immersed is because they are afraid of that pain; are embarrassed to show vulnerability; or perhaps don’t really have the passion for it.

Do yourself a favor. If you want to become a superstar in sales, immerse yourself in some program or coach that will help you get there quickly. If you want to have leadership qualities that others would give their right arm for, immerse yourself in a program or coach that will extract every inch of skill and talent out of you. Don’t put it off by saying you need to accomplish something else first. That’s procrastination and it only wastes time. Put up with the immersion and you will find you will more quickly reach your goals.

I plan on immersing myself into my Spanish every time I see my mother, even if I do have to be Jaime. Are you ready to make the same commitment with your career and life?

P.S. The most successful business professionals never quit learning. They constantly immerse themselves in something new. Don’t tell me you’ve got it all covered. You can always learn more.

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