Extra Points: Forever Young

Dan Weedin Unleashed-40This past week, I read an article written by former Washington State University quarterback Ryan Leaf for the Players Tribune. As a former rival, he may have been the most feared signal caller. After being drafted second overall by the San Diego Chargers in the 1998 NFL Draft, he admittedly flamed out and became what would be termed a “bust” in football circles.

His article was a letter to his 21-year old self. Ryan Leaf is now 40 years old, and has experienced injuries, addictions, an attempted suicide, and prison. Today, he’s living a life of sobriety and success, and chronicles his struggles in the article. What’s remarkable is that at the end, he says he wouldn’t change a thing. He says that all he went through in his life made him the person he is today. His only regret is how he treated other people. Other than that, the letter is a tough love warning of what is in store. It’s poignant, brave, and a must read. Of course, AFTER you finish reading this!

It got me thinking of what I would write to my 21-year old self 32 years later. At 21, I was just married and had the entire world in front of me. I’d tell myself that I out-kicked my coverage with my life partner; that I’d married the perfect person for me, that we’d raised two bright and beautiful daughters, that we’d scored big on a son-in-law, and would welcome in the most perfect baby ever born. I’d also tell myself that along the way, there will be many challenges to overcome, but each one will make me better, if I allowed it to. The only advice I’d give would be to enjoy the ride more; to slow down; to savor time with children and parents because it goes by so fast.

What would you write to yourself?

Be careful because if we learned anything from Back to the Future, it’s that any change, even a seemingly minor one, will alter the delicate balance of your life. I admire Mr. Leaf’s observation that there is no desire to change anything, even the painful times. What this does indicate to me however is that we have the opportunity now to chart a path for our future selves. How can we improve our lives, and the lives of those closest to us, in the future? What have we learned in our past that will alter that? Mr. Leaf suggests for himself that it’s the way he plans on treating other people. For me, it will be mindful of slowing down and appreciating the moment more. That means pulling out my old Winnie the Pooh books and reading them to my granddaughter.

What about you? How will you write your future?

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Quote of the Week:

“A man who has never passed through the inferno of his passions has never overcome them.”

~ Carl Jung

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Extra Points: It’s a Wonderful Life

it_s_a_wonderful_life_-_no_man_is_a_failure_that_has_friendsThis Week’s Focus Point: It’s A Wonderful Life

My favorite movie. Period.

Something about James Stewart’s portrayal of George Bailey in Frank Capra’s classic Christmas movie touches my heart and spirit every year. Obviously, I’m not the only one as it has become a bedrock of watched Christmas movies, even though it was considered a box office flop back in 1946.

Here’s the thing for me…the poignant part for me is how fragile life really is. I wonder how each one of us, if we actually got the gift George Bailey received, would look at our lives differently. So many humans get wrapped up in “what ifs” and “Shoulda, coulda, woulda” statements of regrets. We all just simply don’t know how our life would change if even one of those things happened. Barb and I were talking about this recently when we were visiting the Santa Train near the city we once lived. Had we not taken a bold and risky move to buy a franchise opportunity in 1993, we may have never left that city. If that had happened, our lives would be so different. One daughter would never have met my son-in-law and given us the beautiful granddaughter we have. Our youngest daughter wouldn’t be thriving in the corporate position she holds today. The friends we’ve made, the positions we’ve held, and the experiences we’ve had would all be gone and replaced by something else. While the “something else” may not have been bad, we wouldn’t trade any of what we have now for all the money in the world. You might say the same thing.

As we close in on the end of another calendar year, it’s always good to remember what kind of a life we’ve actually had. When Lou Gehrig exclaimed to a packed Yankee Stadium over 70 years ago that he was the “luckiest man on the face of the earth,” I have no doubt he meant it. That’s because when I echo those statements today, I truly believe that it’s been a wonderful life for me. And I can’t wait to see how the saga continues…

What about you?

Quote of the Week:

“No man is a failure that has friends.”

~ Clarence Oddbody (George Bailey’s Guardian Angel)

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Extra Points: The Present

Dan Weedin Unleashed-40This holiday season always makes us think of presents. The act of exchanging gifts with family and friends starts ramping up around Halloween these days and goes all the way through Christmas. Today, I’d like to talk about a different kind of present and a different kind of gift.

Barb and I are fortunate to get regular photo updates of our granddaughter. One of the most recent shows her looking right into the camera and flashing a beautiful smile, which for her is a newfound and growing skill! I quickly turned it into the wallpaper for my lock screen on my phone, so I see it often. It dawned on me that infants like my granddaughter live totally in the “present.” And what a “gift” that is. She isn’t ruminating on past failures or calamities; nor is she obsessed with worries about the future and what might or never occur. She’s living completely in enjoying and making the most of her present. For that matter, so are both my dogs. Captain Jack and Bella almost always wear that same impish grin.

Somewhere along the way, we humans lose that gift and start focusing on the past and future. While utilizing the past for lessons learned and cherished events is good, dwelling and living in the past is not. While eager to find opportunity and enjoying the future is good; being filled with anxiety and fear is not.

Here’s my holiday gift to you (actually I’m keeping and sharing from my granddaughter): Live in the present more. The past holds many experiences both good and bad and nothing can change what happened. You can’t write the future in your head because it’s likely to turn out differently than you planned. Be cognizant of where you are today becasue it will soon be the past. We only come around this way once, so make sure your present is truly a gift to yourself and others.

Quote of the Week:

“There is nothing new in the world except the history you do not know.”

~ Harry S. Truman

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Extra Points: Finish Strong

Dan Weedin Unleashed-40What did you resolve to accomplish last January?

Some of the more popular personal “resolutions” might include increased exercise, improved eating and health habits, more time spent with family and less time on social media, and discovering greater life balance.

I find that professional resolutions pale in comparison. They often seem to be carry-over goals of making more money, improving growth goals, hiring more people, expanding demographics, and boosting the bottom line. Well, how are you doing with one month left?

The problem with many of these resolutions is that once met somewhere in the year, the foot will often ease of the gas pedal and coast into the next year. If you feel that happening to you, it’s a mistake.

While December is filled with holiday parties, end of the year reports, and an enormous amount of other distractions, it doesn’t have to be a time where nothing gets accomplished. In fact, for the savvy business professionals, it’s time to go fast and furious while others enjoy too much holiday cheer.

Look, I’m not suggesting you bypass the spirit of the season. On the contrary, revel in it while at the same time sprinting hard through the end of the year so that the momentum carries you into a fast calendar year-start.

A few suggestions on how to begin that mad dash:

Find ways to help your clients finish their year sprinting. Create new opportunities to meet people that you didn’t get to work with this year. Be innovative and create a new service or product. Stop emailing and pick up a phone to talk to someone. Smile more. Seek out opportunity each day. Improve your self-talk. Set a growth goal (personal or professional) for each day. Ask for help when you need it. Stay enthusiastic.

Life’s too short. I’m as guilty as the next person in taking each day for granted that there will be a day to follow and time to catch up. The time is now. It matters not if it’s the last month of a year or the third. Commit to sprinting through your life each day; not in a hurry, but in running a great race that keeps you living life fast and furious.

Quote of the Week:

“It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.”

~ Aristotle

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Living Thanksgiving Every Day

Dan Weedin Unleashed-40I’m watching my alma mater, the University of Washington Huskies playing the University of Utah Utes in a wild and exciting game Saturday night. The Huskies down late in the game make an improbable comeback and are in a position to kick a winning field goal with only two seconds left. The kicker has had a tough year and had already missed an extra point and field goal in this game. With victory at stake, he calmly boots the game winner and is mobbed by his teammates.

It dawns on me as we head into Thanksgiving week, that this is a lesson on thanks.

Although true, it’s easy to point to family, friends, and health as things to be thankful for. As I get older, I become increasingly thankful for the journey. The journey includes struggle, resilience, good days, bad days, and mediocre days. The journey includes teammates and opponents and ultimately offers opportunities for redemption and glory. Sometimes we lose the battle as Utah did and sometimes we are victorious. But in all cases we are blessed with another day and opportunity until we won’t be and the journey ends.

Here’s what I’m thankful for: the journey, the struggle, the opportunities, the people, the redemption, the uncertainty and the fun. Honor the struggle and the journey and be thankful you’ve got the opportunity to live and craft your on journey and share it with those you want to.

Thank you for being a part of my journey and for continuing to allow me to be a part of yours.

Quote of the Week:

“It’s no use going back to yesterday, becasue I was a different person back then.”

~ from Alice in Wonderland (Lewis Carroll)

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Extra Points: My Best

Dan Weedin Unleashed-40I’m on the national faculty for The National Alliance, which is a professional development and continuing education program for the insurance industry. This past week, I was sent to teach two different classes held in Eugene, OR. Often in smaller cities where there are fewer opportunities (like Eugene), many students sign up for both days. That was again the case here.

One of the participants was a young lady named Abbey, and she taught me a mindset lesson I plan on immediately implementing for myself. Each class concludes with an exam, and when the participants hand theirs into me, I always ask, “How did you do?” As you might imagine, I get a number of different responses ranging from, “Great,” to “Not so well.” On average, the replies are mostly positive and hopeful. On both days, Abbey answered with a smile saying, “My best!”

The first day I thought her response somewhat charming. However when she said it again the next day, I took more notice. It became evident that this is her normal response to that question in life. She’s more than happy to go through life doing her best and living with the results. I chalked that up to a new entry into the definition of “unleashed!”

How many of us go through life dissatisfied with our best for that day? We are all human and some days we are better than others, whether it be at work, with our family, on the golf course, or taking a test. Abbey’s example of being satisfied with doing her best is a great lesson for me and for all of you reading this.

Understanding and accepting that by every day going out and doing our best and living with the results and consequences will reduce stress, alleviate pressure (often self imposed), make one happier and more fun to be around, and lead to a more rewarding life. That would be a good test for all of us.

How will you do today?

Quote of the Week:

”Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.”

~ Leonardo da Vinci

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Extra Points: Hydrating Your Life

Dan Weedin Unleashed-40Last week I talked about the fact that I hate drinking water. We looked at the concept of hydrating a body being critical to better decision-making, energy, and creativity in business. I opined that we need proper levels of hydration to properly function and be healthy; that we must be alert to this need and disciplined in it’s implementation both personally and professionally. I also gave a few suggestions on how to “hydrate” your business. You were promised that this week, you’d get a few suggestions on how to “hydrate” your life.

We need proper levels of hydration to properly function and be healthy. We must be alert to this need and disciplined in it’s implementation. Likewise, we must be alert and disciplined in hydrating our personal lives. If you find yourself bored with your career, lacking energy and enthusiasm in your daily life, and simply slogging through the motions to get from day to day, then you are badly dehydrated! It’s time to infuse some hydration in your career.

Allow me to offer you three ideas to immediately get you out of a sluggish dehydrated state and into an energized and unleashed state:

First, commit to getting 30 minutes of exercise daily. That’s right, every day. I’m only asking you to carve out half an hour. That’s long enough to take a brisk walk, get in a swim, or lift weights (among a large number of options). I know that when I’ve taken a few days off for whatever reason, my mood changes for the worse. Get moving.

Second, do something that scares you every day. In this example, I’m not suggesting you do something reckless or foolish. I am suggesting however that you do something that makes your heart race a little and causes you discomfort. It might be giving a speech in public; volunteering for a challenging project, taking a risk that might draw criticism; or pulling the ripcord on skydiving. Life is about creating – not waiting  for – excitement and adventure. Those that wait for it get dehydrated; those that seek out are energized.

Third, change your mindset. When Captain Jack enters the same yard every day for his morning constitution, he’s not thinking, “Oh man, the same stupid yard! What a drag…” Rather, I can literally feel from the pull on the leash his enthusiastic exclamation, “The YARD! The YARD! Oh the new smells…I can’t wait to start the day!” Dogs don’t focus on the visual sense that we humans get bored with. They use their highly developed olfactory senses to sniff out opportunity. While you can’t follow your nose quite as well as dogs can, you can change your mindset to seek out opportunity in every day and every interaction.

Life’s too short, friends. Stay thirsty for life and keep drinking that water to unleash your potential and dreams.

P.S. I gave you three ideas. I have seven more that will immediately help you but don’t have the room here. Email me and I will share them with you.

Quote of the Week:

”Intelligence without ambition is a bird without wings.”

~ Salvador Dali

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